So I am 4 weeks postpartum with my second daughter. I have an older sister and when I found out I was having another girl, I was so emotional knowing that I was giving my daughter what I experienced growing up (my sister and I are still the best of friends to this day). My husband is the only son from his dad and has felt the pressure to have a boy and pass on the name (he has 2 sisters from his dad/mom and a half brother from mom). Of course I’d love to experience raising both but we are really really happy with our girls and my family has NEVER put any pressure/made negative comments about having girls.. Tbh, he could really care less about it and truly loves being a girl dad, he claims he’s in his Adam Sandler era. He even has a common last name and jokes with his dad/grandpa that it isn’t going anywhere.
This is where the assholeness comes in…. His sister and brother both announced they were expecting with their partners recently. Nobody was overly thrilled at first because of the situations/timeframes that each of his sibling is currently in. Anywho, his mom (my girls’ grandma) has made multiple comments about wanting their kids to be boys and constantly says things like “I hope it’s a boy but a girl will be okay too”. I guess it just stings because these comments make me feel like my girls aren’t “enough” for them (when they totally are) but my husband claims that there are just a lot of girls in the family and they just want more boys. Obviously even if they have boys, they aren’t going to carry on the last name because his sister is giving their kid the dad’s last name and his brother shares the same mom not the same dad… so I guess to his mom it’s not about passing on the name, it’s just about it being a boy. It has made being around the family really hard recently and I’m dreading the gender reveal, but I don’t want to be the salty person and want to celebrate them like his siblings have always celebrated us in our pregnancies - regardless if their situations are less than ideal. Anyways, I’m feeling like an asshole.