Just wanted to get this off my chest lang out of frustration and because I don’t have anyone else to rant to. Dating in my 20s has made me realize that I can’t be a “chill” girlfriend if I wanted to be treated well. In my last relationship, I was exactly that. Walang pera si guy, parehas kaming student, ako working and supporting myself.
Dahil sa financial situation namin I accepted not being taken on nice dates, or doing fun activities kasi we don’t have money. I supported him pa nga financially because he couldn’t hold a job. Pero after 2 years of no planned dates, hanggang fast food lang lagi, no flowers kahit anniversary, no surprises, no effort, nagsawa nako and left.
I reflect and realize that nangyare yun sakin because I let it happen. I was too supportive and too understanding. At dahil doon, kampante siya. Hindi siya takot na iiwan ko siya. Hindi ako nagdemand ng kahit ano sakanya except his company. I accepted his cheap effortless dates because I thought ok lang as long as we have each other.
I see my other friends na maarte, demanding, and sila yung natratrato ng maayos. Kaya from now on, magiging demanding na rin ako even though thats not in my character, because if not, the same thing will just happen again.