Left the father of my children and now he suddenly wants to talk all the time?
We were together for 9 years, it started out great. He was excited to have kids and was the one that brought it up, but once they came he seemed to change his mind. After I had our second child he completely disconnected from us and left me to do all of the childcare, household tasks, managing, planning, and trying to repair our relationship. While he played video games or played on his phone. It felt like he was actively pretending we weren’t even there. Any attempt to get him to put effort in, led to an argument where no one would win and nothing would change. This lasted for around 4 years until I couldn’t take it anymore and left for the sake of my mental health and the kids. Now that we are separated he is suddenly very invested in talking to me and telling me that he misses me, wants me back, and he is “working on his mental health”. It makes me angry because I wanted to talk to him for years during our relationship but he always ignored me. So I’m not sure how I should approach this or what the real intentions are? I kind of want to tell him to f*** off because he never cared when I wanted to talk. But I am too compassionate for that, and I’m worried I am going to be taken advantage of.