finding my feet again as a single gay guy
I (25M) got dumped ~2 months back, and I've had ups and downs since. Despite accepting the breakup, a part of me feels like we should still be together, but I know it's just because the relationship was familiar to me. Even so, I get an empty feeling, but this is gradually lessening. It comes when I do mundane things we used to do together, like cooking and even just walking along a certain street. Most of my time in this city has been with him, so it's like I'm rediscovering this place I know so well, but without him.
Pretty soon after getting dumped, I got Tinder and then a month later, Grindr. Idk man I feel like everything has changed after 1.5 years. I feel like I get way less matches now, despite looking better than before. I'm not basing my self-worth on an app with algorithms designed to keep me engaged, but do you seriously mean to tell me in a city of 1mil people, I'm struggling to make 2 or 3 matches in a week? Anyway, I want to meet people organically, but I don't know where to start. I'm so eager to embrace life as a single gay man, but I also want to know some nice people.
I'm not the kind to sleep around, but if the feeling's right, I'm game. However, where do I even begin? I don't particularly enjoy loud, overstimulating gay settings. I can just about handle a gay club. But the idea of pride is just really daunting. I feel like going on holiday actively to avoid my city's pride celebrations, because I know I'll just be stuck indoors by myself, most likely.