How do you handle STBXH trying to fix things AFTER you’ve asked for a divorce?
Backstory: I posted a while ago, asking how you know when it’s time to ask for a divorce. Shortly after, I asked for a divorce. That’s been about 2 weeks ago. My STBX is emotionally abusive and is an avoidant personality. I’ve begged him for years to help around the house more and help me out in general, with no luck. He has a severe porn addiction that he refuses to work on. He thought we were doing better the months prior to me asking for separation which was early March. He just didn’t realize I was detaching and I’m now fully detached. After asking for a divorce, he told me no and asked for a couple more months to work on things… Okay then. We still live together, but separate rooms. I’m prolonging getting in contact with an attorney because I want us on the same page.
Anyways, he’s trying to “fix things”, but not actually putting in the effort to fix what was wrong in the first place. Last weekend, he asked if I wanted to go to the movies. This weekend it’s going out to dinner. Yet, the original issues aren’t even being acknowledged or worked on. I feel bad saying no, so I’ve been saying “we will see”. I don’t want to lead him on, to think there is a chance everything is fine, when it’s really not and never will return to how it was!
How do you go about shutting down the attempted dates?