Need advice on male friendship.
I don't want to get into details but I have a friend that currently in a very bad situation. Me and other friends can't actually help him and the only thing we can offer is emotional validation.
But, unfortunately, like in a most of male freind groups there's lack of emotional support or non at all. Every conversation with him and another friends is about how fucked up everything is, extremly cynical, negative and invalidating. Dude clearly needs some kind words but typical conversation is something like that: yeah that's fucked up but funny enough (haha) it will only get worse so be ready to suffer more.
I think this dynamic is wrong but I can't do anything about it. Nobody shares their emotions because every attempt is faced with cynicism and toxicity. So we are "freinds" on paper but actually are deeply alienated from each other.
Last several months I started to isolate myself from this group. Every time i'm in a conversation with this friend he basically says to me: I hope you will be in the same position as I am, which is actually possible. And every time I become so depressed after that I start to fell physically unwell. I understand where this hatred comes from. He copes with idea that other people will have to endure the same suffering as him. I still feel bad for him but I can't stand it anymore.
Am I doing right for isolating myself from them or am I being too sensitive for a man and it's a problem on my side. Do i need to work on not being so sensitive to hatred and toxicity?