I have two friends, Michael and Sam , we have known each other for 10 years or so. We met when we were all working abroad and became quite close quite quickly. Mike and Sam started dating very soon after we all met, but regardless of that, we all hung out and traveled together while living abroad.
Eventually, we all left our jobs and headed away from where we were living. Sam and I are from the same country while Michael is from the UK, so I was ecstatic to hear that Mike was planning to move with Sam back home. Although we were in the same country, Sam is from a city that is about a 3 hour plane ride away. Regardless, I was excited and was even more flattered to write a letter of recommendation for Mike’s green card application.
Since we have all been back, I have gone and visited them multiple times; and even flew to Sam’s hometown, a very remote town, for their wedding weekend. They have never been to visit me.
A couple weeks ago, Sam and I were talking and she revealed that her and Mike were going to be in my area because a friend of Mike’s from the UK wanted to see some of the sights my area is famous for. They were coming for a week. The asked why they didn’t mention this to me because I would have liked to see them, and they said they didn’t think they could squeeze me in and apologized. I can’t lie, I felt dejected.
This week, Sam contacted me again to invite me to her 35th birthday party. I said that I didn’t think I would be able to swing it this year for some reasons, and when pressed, everything I had been feeling kinda came out. I explained to her that I felt undervalued as a friend and that I was sad the friendship didn’t seem balanced. Sam got a bit angry and said that I was Sacrificing a friendship over nothing and that it just made sense for me to always come to them, because I am single and therefore it was easier for me. I explained that it didn’t really feel that way to me, but she stopped responding.
So now I feel even worse haha was I overreacting? AITA?