u/Coolbeansbaby1

Has an AP or pAP ever given you the ick when things were going so well? I've only been seeing AP for a month, was really enjoying talking and getting to know him. Went on a couple coffee dates that were amazing. He is a joy to be around, one of those people with good energy, you just feel good in their company.

Anyway, we were messaging recently, he was sending me random pics throughout the day, love when men share regular life pics....

One was him hard at work. And then another of the backseat of his van, suggesting we do bad things on it. This just turned me off so badly, the idea of car sex​ with him. He then said I should visit his work sometime (he runs his own business) which helloooooo Opsec. I shut it down, told him the only place I like to have sex is on a comfy bed.

Just trying to process my feelings. I feel a little bad for shutting him down, but I am just not someone that rushes into sex. ​Especially bad car sex. Feel a little icky when I think about him now. Should I keep seeing him? The last date we had, I was on cloud 9 afterwards. I honestly can't see myself ever wanting to sleep with him now. ​

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u/Coolbeansbaby1 — 8 days ago

I have no one to share this with :*) so I'm telling you guys.

Had a great second date with AP. Met him a month ago off AM. First date was good and this was even better. Shared a couple kisses and cuddles for the first time today. He got me coffee, we met at a park where we watched people walking their cute dogs. As we were walking back to our cars, we crossed a pedestrian bridge and stopped in the middle to make out like teenagers haha. ​

So effortless, and genuine. I just felt so safe, like I could be myself with this man. I love how slow we are taking this. Not even rushing into sex. He is so damn good at communicating in person and also sends me messages to let me know he's thinking about me without it being OTT.

The boundaries are so clear too, this doesn't feel like out of control NRE (that I've had with prev APs) and the amazing communication I am getting is so damn reassuring.

So enjoying this experience. That is all :)

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u/Coolbeansbaby1 — 18 days ago