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I (22F, 170cm, CW: 71,5kg) have lost 5,7kg since the beginning of my journey (February 18th if I recall correctly?) And 6,8kg from my all time high weight.

This has been my most successful weight loss attempt yet (and hopefully the most lasting one lol). My goal weight is 65kg, but honestly, as soon as I drop below 70kg I will be beyond pleased.

I have been stuck at 72-71kg for a good while now (about a month) because I always end up eating at maintenance. I keep doing the things I did before, that is weight lifting 3 times a week and 8-10k steps everyday, I just don't stick to my weekly deficit.

I have a goal of eating 1500 calories a day and it had been working great for me so far. I don't know what happened now and some days it feels like it's not enough. When I say it's not enough, I don't mean I'm hungry, I just want more; I am not satisfied. I do suffer from occasional binging episodes but it's nowhere near as bad as it used to be and the damage is much less, if any, as I have made my last binge fit into my deficit.

I am not gaining weight, so I'm not worried at all, I just want to finally and for once reach that fucking end goal. I feel like I'm so close. I'm halfway there. It feels like I'm just a few kgs away from confidence. Why is it that I can't lock in for like 2 months to get there? Can anyone help me?

I (22F) and my friend (22F) were part of a friend group during the first years if Uni. In the same group there was a guy, let's call him Dan.

Dan is originally from another country and, while he grew up in our country (a european country), the language and cultural differences are rather prevalent. He was a good guy tho, that's why we were friends with him. The main thing is his culture is way more conservative than my country's (and than most European/ west cultures).

Among the most telling differences is the fact that in his culture women have a more submissive role. He was not of that view tho. He was very normal about that and he would never say sexist things. The problem was that he could not comprehend that men and women can be involved in a non romantic/ sexual way.

He would constantly think that every single girl he was talking to wanted him and was flirting with him. I am 100% sure that he thought that about me as well, but I caught that early and stopped whatever could have made him think that.

Now, regarding my friend. She was very close with him and she would often call him her best guy friend and stuff like that. At some point they had a fight but they soon made up.

When they reconciled she told him that she didn't like how they fought and that she loves him a lot. This particular phrase, in my humble opinion, should not be said to someone who constantly and systematically misunderstands closeness for romantic interest. He also had some difficulties with the language which only makes things worse.

Anyway, long story short he left and went back to his city after finishing uni and immediately after leaving he started texting her telling her he was so in love with her and that she was the best thing to ever happen to him and things like that.

In the beginning you could tell she was very flattered but also uncomfortable, since she didn't like him.

The situation escalated to him saying he is obsessed with her and just the other day he was calling her late at night and sending her messages saying that he's coming to find her. I can only imagine how creepy that is.

I have had a very specific thought that I have never expressed to anyone, because I feel like it's an asshole opinion, and it's the following: her not stopping/ regulating the closeness with him early on, later her telling him she loves him and then her responding to his messages in a way that allows the conversation to keep going are the main factors to blame for her situation.

At some point it sounded as if she was bragging when she would say things like "he said he wants me and is obsessed with me" and then laugh. I was telling her to send him a message that would leave no room for the conversation to continue or to simply stop answering/ block him and she would refuse.

He was misunderstanding the intentions of every girl - friend he has ever had, but they would always stop the situation, so it never reached that point.

He is not dangerous by any means, but he's definitely creepy. I am not trying the blame her as a person, but her actions are kinda weird. I feel like such an asshole for saying these things😭