I have decided that I want a divorce, but I do not know how to communicate this to my husband. Deep down, I wish something external would force the situation or that he would be the one to ask for it, because it would feel easier. Even though we are both unhappy, I do not think he will take that step.
I have started thinking about the logistics, including where I will go and what I will do after I tell him. I have already packed some of my things and I am preparing myself for the outcome. But I keep getting stuck on actually having the conversation. I replay it in my head over and over, wondering what to say, when to say it, and how to say it. I do not know if I should be direct and say it plainly or try to ease into it more gently.
For context, he is a man that comes from a very traditional family. His parents have been together for decades and his siblings all have long marriages. I know this will hurt him deeply. I expect he will be heartbroken, emotional, and will want to try to fix things. And his family might jump in to try and save it as well.
I am struggling with how to approach this in a way that is honest but not unnecessarily cruel. If anyone has been in a similar situation, I would really appreciate advice on how to have this conversation.