We were/are (I am not really sure at this point) together for 14 years. We meet in school and spent our lives together ever since. 6 years ago we moved in together directly from our parents homes. The last few months were a little weird, because I felt something was off. But because he said he loved me and was still caring, I thought it was still ok. He said once, if he does not feel it, he won't say or show it.
I realized he was starting to shut me out. Did not include me in his life that much and was not communicating the way he used to. We got in an argument and the next thing he said was that he wants to break up. He did not feel it for a long time and was just pretending. He said the activities we did together were only fun because they were by themself, but not because I was with him.
I did not see that coming. He first blocked every question If we could work on what he needs to feel better in this relationship. But he still wanted to talk, so I could get all the answers I need. Basically his main problem is that he does not know what it is to live alone. He has never done that. When we moved in together, I took care of everything.
Since he said that, he ist acting cold, but does not want to lose me. He says he does not have romantic feelings, he feels numb, loves me as family. He sleeps on the sofa, still wants to talk to me, but I get no affection at all.
He has not saved any money so that moving out would be easy. Not because he could not but he just did not save it. His furniture is basically just a desk, a living room cupboard and a mattress. He would need to buy everything else, including a whole kitchen.
After talking a bit he said, he wants to try to make it work, but still wants to move out. All I am getting is more questions, but no real closeness from him. He says he just does not feel it. I wanted him to move temporarily to his father, but he wanted to stay and continue sleeping on the sofa.
How can this be fixed (if it even can be fixed)? Why does he feels the need to have his own apartment? I am so overwhelmed by this situation.