Not surprised
My mil has always been a grating person with a victim mentality and I played along for maaaany years. About a year ago she did something I found to be unforgivable, I told her as such, i was “mean” and went no contact. I don’t want to go into details but it was a very big deal and no contact was warranted. We’ve been at the same events maybe 3-4 times and i avoid her. If she says hello I’ll say hi and keep it moving. My husband is light contact, at first his choice and now because his mom is passive aggressive with him and doesn’t reach out or return his messages. Of course the reason is that we held her accountable for her extremely out of line behavior and so now we’re the ones who have done something wrong. She claims she has tried to apologize and make amends for what she did, but thats simply not true. Talks about me behind my back, lies about what happened. We have two kids whom she also no longer really has a relationship with because of her own choices.
Im the villain in her story of course, because I set a boundary. But what she did actually didnt have anything to do with me, it involved one of our kids. Anyway I just find it comical that she claims she sooo sad to lose the relationships and has been trying to fix it for this whole time when she wont admit she’s done the damage she has done and can’t even do simple things like send a happy mothers day text. I know it doesn’t matter because I won’t speak to her, but if she was really trying to build a bridge she would find a way to show me or her grandkids she cares at all. She tells my sil (also married in - who tells me everything) that she’s been trying and what else can she do blah blah and you want me to believe you called and texted that sil (who also hates her) about mothers day and it didn’t cross her mind that telling me I’m a good mom or something kind would be a positive step for her to take? Listen, I know it’s dumb because I don’t want to talk to her and I won’t talk to her, but I’m just saying if I were in her position I would do any and everything I could to make nice with me so I could have a relationship with my grandkids. That would go against her victim act, but wild a simple Mother’s Day text was even too hard for the woman who has “tired everything.”