My(38F) boyfriend(41M) still has pictures and videos of his ex and I'm not sure how to handle it...
so I've been with my boyfriend for about a year and a half now and I knew he had a few pictures of him and his ex on his Google photos, I would see them Everytime he was showing me pictures of his work (he always takes pictures of what he's working on so I can see the progress) even though he tried to swipe past really fast, I could still see it. I never said anything because that's his business and as long as it's in the past then ok. Well recently he's been talking about our future together, he says he loves me and wants to grow old together. I love him and I can see us growing old together also, however, he expressed how uncomfortable it made him that I kept a picture of my ex, and it was in my favorites album. The picture was of my son, myself, and my ex with a stunning view behind us, a great picture, but I didn't even think twice about it, I edited the ex out of the pic. one day he's showing me his most recent work and he scrolls too far and there she is, they are kissing. he quickly closes the app and changes the subject, but I'm kinda irritated, I ask him why I had to edit a picture with me and my son when he still has pictures of them kissing? after going around in circles with one excuse after another he basically told me he will not erase pictures of her. yet he swears he doesn't love her anymore, that he's in love with me. right....
So this evening he came home from work exhausted, we ate dinner together then he went to bed while I cleaned up. I come into the room to check on him and he's passed out, sitting up in bed with his phone in his hand. I smile a little because it touches my heart, those little moments... I come over to tuck him in and I set his phone aside, not paying attention to what he was watching. after he settles and rolls over I go to put his phone on the charger, like I have so many times before, but I freeze when I see the screen...
it's a video, I think it's just porn at first, until I see her face. it's a video of them having sex. it's an old one, I checked the details, but that's as far as I went. when I backed out, he had a complete album... I couldn't look, I wish I hadn't... I feel sick, and a little lost. I don't know what to do... does anyone have any advice? I know we need to talk, planning on it, but I don't know how to handle this. please help!