Is marriage over
I, 38F and husband 39M have been having issues for the last few years. We’ve been together for 12yrs and married for almost 4yrs. Last year he told me that he wasn’t sure if he wants to be married and wasn’t sure if I was “the one”. I asked him several times if he still wants to be with me and he said yes, But he only tells me that when I ask and doesn’t really show it with his actions. He shows little affection and is glued to his game and phone all night after work. When I try to spend time with him he acts like I’m annoying him and constantly about how he doesn’t want to be bothered and that’s he needs to distress! I’ve tried to work on things that he complained about but it’s doesn’t seem likes it’s enough. He treats me like the Help… I feel like the person that takes care of his home and our daughter and not a wife. He thinks just because he gives me a gift once a year (if that) and takes me out to expensive dinners a couple of times out of the year than that should be enough. Every-time I talk with him about our issue he gets defensive and says “he tired of always be blamed for everything” he is open to attending marriage counseling but I’m not confident that that will change anything. I’m still young and feel like I’m wasting the little bit of youth I have left lol. I think divorce may be on the table.
I would also like to add that I noticed a shift in his behavior when he started making more money than me. Before we went 50/50 and I was the primary source of income. He also brags about paying all the bills when he only pays the housing bills. Sorry for being all over the place e but needed to vent.
TL;DR: need marriage advice please