u/ContributionIcy3808

Hello everybody, I've (20F) been dating my boyfriend (19M) close to a year, and I did not care about who his ex was or if he was friends with them at the start, until their profile was suggested to me and I took a look at it.

(This is my first relationship; I've never had to deal with having an ex)

They dated for about 4 months in high school ( Senior year), and they have a few close friends together. I'm not sure if they still talk. She still has two pictures of them together up, they still follow each other, and he has liked some of her recent posts ( vacation pictures, just normal ones). I don't know how I feel about that. From what he has told me, she broke up with him, and they ended it on good terms ( I don't know why they broke up; I didn't ask). I just feel like he still has feelings ( I'm probably reaching that conclusion because he's still following her).

So, as the title says, do you think it's normal in this case? Any advice would help. I am aware that I overthink.

TL;DR - I've said hurtful things to my boyfriend and have been constantly upset/crying for him, asking me simple questions, and me not being able to answer them right, asking if apologising is going to fix it.

About three months ago, my boyfriend liked one of his friend's bikini pictures ( very explicit), and I let him know that it made me uncomfortable and disrespected. We had a conversation, and in a moment of anger and hurt, I said " I would leave you without telling you if you do something like this again," and it seemed to hurt him a lot. I regret saying that. Ever since then, things have been going downhill.

The second terrible thing I've been doing, which I have not been able to control, is crying every time he asks me a simple question, and I would be unable to answer it or get it wrong. The most recent incident was when he asked me what the knee cap was called (English is not my first language, and I sometimes struggled to remember words) and I burst out in tears because I could not remember it, and this happened in public. I brought up to him how it made me feel like he was looking down on me for not knowing simple things, and that was what made me upset. He apologised and said that he was just being curious and not judgmental

Anyways, I feel terrible for making him feel like he can't be himself around me because of the things I've done. And I extremely regret saying that I would leave him without telling him if he hurt me enough. Do you think apologising would fix it? Any advice would help.

Thank you.