'M28' and my fiancee 'F29', Two years LDR
Me 'M28' and my fiancee 'F29' are in a long distance relationship since 2 years, things were going smoothly since the purposal which was somewhat started on getting married and bring her here to Italy either on study visa or spouse. But she never showed a little bit of interest in the application even though she wanted to study but never does anything untill i ask her or force her. My priorities were straight, anyhow end the LD otherwise this relationship won't last more than a few years.
She was never available emotionally, no childish behavior, always answering "Yes" or "No" which feels no less than talking to Ai. I asked her multiple time if we can communicate without these emotionless texts and come on video call or phone call but even if i call her 100 time she'll either wait till i guve up or keep declining the calls and later saying that i don't know what to talk about on the call.
Untill now as i presents her personality, she's not talking a lot, observe, feels like play mind games with me , ego at the ceiling. We spend weeks without talking. She has Traumas from her previous life before me.
The off things in me according to her.. I'm not emotionally available, I'm always highlighting her mistakes, i try to think practically and dead focused on something that my behavior changes.
After two years of struggle we're still at 0 point where we started, and now she wants to break up sticking to her 9-5 job which barely makes her enough to survive and here I'm working my ass of to make money so i could financially support her and have at least 1 year backup including her fees.
Never in two year she has asked me that how am i doing and when i ask her she call it a formality without realizing that im exhausted and frustrated being alone, i don't have anyone to talk to, i spend weeks without even seeing or talking to anyone i know. I've finally come to the point having Anxiety Attacks. I compromised my studies, my dreams just to have a person who isn't even mentally available.
And now it's about to finish and few days ago i still requested her to stop and think again but my request is still on hold.
How can I communicate my emotional exhaustion to a long-distance partner who is completely closed off?"