u/ConstantBake69

Hello, I (F/50) reconnected with a guy my age a week ago she had two dates back in January.

Since we reconnected we met once- a week ago- but I noticed that my perception of him started to change. First, I started to associate him with a friend from the past to whom I was never attracted (I don’t know why, the style, smell, way of thinking maybe) and that lowered my attraction to him. Then, I noticed he was comfortably escalating sexually over text but I wasn’t feeling it, so I deflected.

Today he invited me for drinks after work and I declined and I don’t know if I want to see him again at this point. Not sure what to do, if continue to force myself or leave it

Hello, I’ve reconnected with a guy (49 years old, I’m 50/female) with whom we had two dates in January and I decided to stop because there were a lot of things going on in my life at that time. I reconnected with him, we met fur a third time, and I noticed this (I’d appreciate if you share with me if this is something normal because I’m not very experienced in dating)

-he is comfortable talking about sex.

- he initiates sexual topics and even I deflect, he keeps suggesting (he’s not rude or obvious, he seems to want yo talk about that, so he directs the conversation that way)

- he hasn’t mentioned a fourth date yet

I’d appreciate if you could share your ages when you reply, and whether you’d feel comfortable in a similar situation, or do you think he’s only interested in sex. Thanks so much in advance

Hello, I went on two dates with a guy 58 years old, who’s lost his wife to cancer four months ago. I think we had two great dates but I’ve realized my perception is often not accurate, judging by the way others react.

So, this guy sent me a text today, after 6 days of our second date- stating that he was going to be busy with his wife’s memorial and work and that when he was ready to date again, he’d reach out to me. I replied this:

Thank you for letting me know. I really enjoyed our date too. I understand, and I wish you well with everything you have coming up.

After I sent, I deleted the conversation and his contact number.

I have two questions and one favor:

1. Do you think he’ll reach out in the future or this was a sift exit?
2. Do you think my response was ok?

Favor: do not judge me for dating someone who’s lost a partner after so little time. I have learned my lesson already