This is my throw away account for obvious reasons. Here goes…
So, my guy and I met on Match and have been dating for two months. And he started off vulnerable and consistent, with a schedule like clockwork. Texting me every morning, checking in during the day to see how my day is going, and calling me between 3:30 and 4:30 when he got off for a bit, then talking on the phone again until we went to bed. We spend every Saturday together, and sometimes Sunday too. But then, things started feeling off around last week. Two days in a row, he called way 2-3 hours late. Saying he worked late one day and was talking to and hanging out with coworkers late the other day. I said…okay, I understand. That weekend, I go over, we have a good time. And eventually I happened to see notifications on his phone.
Now, I saw it from a couple steps away as I was handing him my phone to charge as he removed his. The icon looked like a blue M from where I was standing. So, I waited a little while and I asked about Match, and he said he still had the account because “it’s free.” I said so are we still both aligned in wanting to be exclusive? He says of course, and that he delete it immediately. After I left later on, he sent me screenshot of a deleted account confirmation. He also said he can only message one person with the free version, so he only talked to me, and that he’d do everything he could to put me at ease. He also told me he believes I’m his person, and that he wouldn’t be spending time with me at his place if he wasn’t taking me seriously. But then this afternoon, when he told me to call him before bed and I did…I called and texted however, his phone was turned off.
Am I being paranoid and anxious? Unreasonable? Or is this a pattern/inconsistency worth paying attention to?