Resentment towards parents for bad childhood/never apologizing and acting like it never happened.
My parents, both in their late 50s, never have acknowledged my sister, or I, had a bad childhood due to their lack of emotional intelligence/being verbally abusive. My dad would get physical on occasion (being on top of me choking me, and or throwing me to the ground) and only punching me a few times, until I got big enough to defend myself, then it stopped. They act as if none of this never happened and that me and my sister are “spoiled”, or that we’re the problem or bad kids.
Now as an adult, our relationship has changed, and they try to act as if nothing ever happened. Almost like somewhere deep down they feel guilt for what they did. And I think this is where part of the resentment comes in.. part of me wishes they’d apologize (which will never happen) and part of me wishes to never see them again.
To add to this, I hate the type of person my mom is. She constantly puts others down, and talks about other people, because she has low self esteem from constantly being put down by my dad. I can’t stand to be around that type of person, and I’m going to be a dad soon and it makes me fear my kid might pick up on her bad behavior.
So I guess the question is, do I cut them off? Try to work it out? Or just truck on like normal?