| (21F) and my boyfriend (22M) have been together for a little over 2 years and moved in together a year ago. For context he moved from 5 hours away to my hometown so he doesn't have his support system here besides me. When I first met him he would smoke weed a lot, I told him that it made me uncomfortable because of a past relationship I had been in and he agreed to try to tone it down. We were long distance for basically the first whole year of our relationship and I knew that he smoked but it didn't bother me because I wasn't there. When he moved up here he tried to respect my wishes and only smoke on the weekends. Recently he has been under a lot more stress and has been smoking a lot more again and this has caused a lot of arguments. The way he explains it to me is basically that it helps him regulate his thoughts and emotions. I am so over all the fighting plus I care about him and his wellbeing more than I care about the smoking and I just want to figure out how to accept that this is a part of him but I am not sure how to go about doing that.
TL;DR My boyfriend smokes a lot, i want to accept that part of him.