Transparency without hurting feelings?
So I’ve been dating this girl for about a month now. We’ve been on several dates, and I did like her, but since we started dating, she has been an awful texter. Very slow responses, but she is always enthusiastic when asked out or in response to me. She’s admitted to being bad about texting, but it hasn’t gotten any better. Since I’ve asked her to dinner, I quit texting her to see if she would initiate, and she hasn’t. It’s been two days. I am speaking with other people, and to be honest, I don’t really even feel like going out to dinner with her anymore because it just doesn’t feel like she’s putting in much effort. She’s incredibly busy with school and a full-time job, so I get it, but I’m busy as well, and I make time for things I care about. With that being said, what should I do? Should I go to dinner with her and be less than enthusiastic during the date because I know afterwards I’m going to tell her I’m not feeling it anymore? Or do I tell her I’ve moved on and cancel the dinner plans? I don’t like ghosting people; I’d rather just be honest. And preferably in a way that doesn’t hurt anyone’s feelings.