It all started with my brother's gf deciding to get married one week after my wedding at the same courthouse as me, Santa Barbara Courthouse. She also said she decided for the family to wear green after I asked all my guests to wear green to my wedding. I joked with her and said "We're going to have matching wedding photos. At this point we should all get married on the same day!" She didn't think it was funny. Fast forward, we both did our research and it wasn't going to work out for either of us to get married there because the courthouse only allows Monday through Friday weddings. They were fully booked for the next 3 months. Sweet! My husband and I switched our plans and decided Chapel of the Flowers in Las Vegas! My brother and his wife changed their date to a month later. THANK GOODNESS. But what I found funny was that during our planning, I was explaining to her that I had February picked out but couldn't decide on February 14^(th) or 28th. Told her I went with February 28^(th) because it didn't feel right asking my family and friends to spend Valentine's Day for my wedding. My brother's wife ends up texting me the next day and suggested I change my color from green to red since I wanted to get married on Valentines Day. I told her no, green is my husband and my favorite color. Plus, guests already bought their dresses and green vests for the wedding. It was 2 weeks leading up to the wedding when she suggested this. I told her thanks for the suggestion though. I received some advice from a friend and she said just look at it as a compliment, your brother's wife is inspired by you.
When I originally sent out the invitations, I mentioned to save the date May 2nd for my reception party for those who couldn't make it to Vegas. Cool right? It gave enough time for people to plan out and make it to our reception party. WELL, after my brother's wife changed her wedding day to a month later. She suggested for me to change my reception date closer to 2/28 so that she could have her baby shower on May 2^(nd) instead. I said no thank you, people have already saved marked May2nd on their calendars. 🙂She said no worries it was just a suggestion.
My brother accidentally got her pregnant and that's why they had a shot gun wedding. She due July 28th, so that makes her 27 weeks pregnant. My husband and I planned our baby, I had my IUD taken out December 23^(rd) 2025. I was expecting to get pregnant maybe up to three months after the removal. Instead I was pregnant within days of the IUD removal. Im 17 weeks and due October 10th. So this past weekend was my reception party! She offered to help in any way with setting up, whatever I needed. My mom and I asked her if she could be in charge of taking polaroid of my guests and me. She said yes of course. I had 3 helpers who came over Friday afternoon to help get the party favors put together and also they helped with setting up our cute photobooth/ backdrop area for taking the polaroids. I had set up the entry way table and steamed the table cloths and put together flowers for my center pieces. Saturday came and my 3 helpers helped blow up the balloons and prepped the appetizers. My brother's wife hardly lifted a finger. I think she cut pepperoni slices for one of the salads. Party started at 5pm. I was a bit late getting ready but was done by 5:30pm. She was still getting ready. Immediately I was thinking I don't need her help, I started grabbing friends and family to take photos with. Thank goodness I did that. She finally came out around 7pm, said hello to people for 15 min then hung out with her mom in her room. My brother even brought them a plate of food when dinner was ready to be served. She came back out when her mom was leaving, her mom said bye to me and my brother's wife stayed out for 10 more minutes and went to bed. My husband said don't be mean she was probably tired. I told him tired from what? Tired from getting ready for 2 hours? Mind you shes been going to Disneyland the last couple of weekend walking around all day long. He said oh wow yeah you're right. Plus my husband's sister is also pregnant and due July 26th, she was a trooper that night of my reception. So anyways, the next we go back over to my parents house to pick up some wedding gifts. I asked my mom if everything was okay with my brother wife, did she get sick? My mom said she was tired and saving her energy for her best friend's birthday party the next day. I said oh noted.
For all of my brother's wife's parties I've gone over early to set up anything she needed, put up bday decor, do all the dishes for her. Also took the time after her friends leave and pick up all the trash they left. Am I wrong to feel hurt? Also, mind you her baby shower is coming up on May 30th. I'm in charge of buying the flowers and making the center pieces. A month ago she got all the ladies together who offered to "help" with her baby shower. She made a slideshow presentation of everything she wanted and asked who would like to tackle this slide? And then move on to the next page. So she basically not paying a dime for her baby shower. Isn't that tacky? If someone offers to help, shouldn't you let the ball be in their court on how they would like to help. What are your thoughts? My close friends said protect your energy. your sister in law is competition with you.