I 16M live with my dad 44M and my stepmom to be 42F (they’re engaged) and her son 8M. She moved in with us in mid 2025 and my dad and her were dating for like a year before that. it has been rough at times and it has taken a long time coping with it because before she moved in it was just me and my dad pretty much always except when I visit my mom. In may we are going to the country where my dad and mom are from for the 2nd time in my life, we went there when I was 9 and my dad told me we would go again at some point and now that point has come and my dad wants my stepmom and stepbrother to come with us too.
It sounds okay but just try to think of it from my perspective. I never wanted them to move in and join our family, I have to put up with all the crap i get from them both. I can never catch a break or any kind of experience of how it used to be from these two new people and I wont until I move out. Everything me and my dad used to do nearly always has to include my stepbrother. I don’t hate either of them and most of the time things are fine but it has literally changed my life and my relationship with my dad.
When my dad told me we can go to the country he brought up about how it’s going to be fun for us all or whatever but I asked him do they have to come, can this one thing just not include them. He says they should come because they’re part of the family too and so it only makes sense, it would be strange if he just left them at home. I said they don’t have to come, it’s not like it’s their country either so it doesn’t even mean the same thing to them. His argument is that it will help bring us together and that I just have to deal with it and make the best of it. It turned into an argument. I can’t change his mind because at the end of the day he says i’m not the one paying and organising it which yeah definitely but I still don’t believe i’m in the wrong for wanting them to not come.