Venue regret
My wedding is less than 90 days away, and I can’t shake the feeling that I may have made the wrong decision with our venue. We booked sight unseen after spending months researching Facebook groups, La Lista, Reddit threads, Instagram, and every corner of the internet trying to feel confident before signing.
Right after booking, I experienced a lot of anxiety, but I convinced myself it was just the weight of making such a huge decision, not my gut trying to tell me something.
As planning has continued, though, I’ve started noticing more and more things that make me uneasy. Multiple cypress trees on the property appear dead or dying, new rules and restrictions have surfaced after signing the contract, and overall I’ve realized the level of design, hospitality, and guest comfort isn’t quite aligned with the types of experiences my fiancé and I naturally gravitate toward in our own travels.
I think part of what’s difficult is that through this process I’ve become much more aware of what truly matters to us aesthetically and experientially. Looking back, I wish I had done more due diligence and fully turned over every stone before committing to such a significant investment.
Now I feel stuck between gratitude and regret. I know the setting is still beautiful, and I know our wedding will ultimately be about love and connection, but guest experience is incredibly important to both my fiancé and me, and I can’t help but feel anxious that we won’t deliver the kind of elevated, immersive experience we envisioned.
I keep wondering if I made a very costly mistake, and it’s hard not to spiral over whether this means I won’t have the wedding I dreamed of.
Has anyone else experienced this feeling during wedding planning, especially with a destination venue? Did the feelings pass once the wedding actually happened?