Ex, I'm autistic and hyper-empathy is a symptom of autism, but in experience, hyper-empathy is just a fancy term for anxiety, probably put in place as branding to combat the idea that autistic people aren't empathetic. Neurotypicals don't experience most things the way autistics do to the same level of emotional severity or dysregulation, so when recognizing other people's negative emotions, our attempts to empathize with their feelings leads to us seeing it from how we would feel in that scenario vs recognizing their experiences as different from ours and putting our feelings on them vs trusting their own communication about how they feel as accurate.
Anxiety has coping strategies to work on regulation and reduce the instances of dysregulation, but I find in autistic spaces, people just accept hyper-empathy as an immutable, unchanging personality trait, and don't feel like there's any work to do to make themselves more comfortable living in their day-to-day life.
What other therapeutic words have you experienced or witnessed 'stop the conversation' in similar ways?