Mother’s Day or lack thereof…
Hello everyone,
I’m going to start this post by saying my husband is my best friend, we’ve been together for almost 14 years we met when we were 20. We’ve been married for 3 years and we just had our first daughter, I went through a year of IVF and it was rough. I also had a rough third trimester as I had to put my soul dog down 2 weeks before giving birth, he was diagnosed with lung cancer and given a 3-6 month life expectancy but declined within 72 hours. He is a great father, a good partner but today just pushed me over the edge. The back story is because I told him in like March, “Mother’s Day is coming up and I want you to actually do something nice for me.. it’s very important to me as it’s my first one.”
I asked to sleep in, we also have a puppy (yes I know how crazy that was, but I was heartbroken over losing my dog) so I wanted to sleep in and him take the first shift with our daughter. Not hard considering she literally sleeps in till 830 most days. Anyway… I woke up at 5 am to the puppy crying.. I took him out. I did the dishes, fed the animals.. then went back to bed till 845 am. My husband got up around 930 10 asking what he could do. I said maybe let me sleep in.. oh wait too late for that. I took care of our daughter, after about an hour or two later he offered to take her and I let the dogs out. I let the animals out, then decided I was going to clean out my car. My husband asked if I wanted to go to Canada. I said no way because our daughter is teething.. we ended up going to Sam’s Club and shopping..
He didn’t end up doing anything for me.. I’m so incredibly hurt, angry and just overall. I worked so hard to even get pregnant let alone, breastfeeding for 4.5 months and just try and take care of my baby to best of my ability. I’m going back to work tomorrow so I was hoping for a nice moment to help me navigate my feelings going back to work..I honestly can’t even look at him, I’m almost disgusted by his selfishness, he clearly has gotten the hint I’m still pissed as he is doing ANYTHING to get me to be okay.. I feel like I lost some of my love for him bc of this. Idk what to do or how convey how upset I am, this was my first Mother’s Day and I spent it just shopping at Sam’s Club. Idk what to do..