Asking permission/Doing it reguardless
How do we all feel about asking your partner for permission in a way to go have dates, go to events etc. I am not someone that experiences much jealousy so I've just said that they can pretty much do whatever they want whenever they want, just let me know beforehand and after just so im aware of whats going on. My parner experiences a lot of jealousy and I would say quite a severe nervous system response of anxiety sometimes. So of course as I care about them, I will tell them what I'm gonna do and then have a little check in. I would say nearly everytime lately, it will be a hard no from them because they have been struggling with anxiety a lot for the past few months and cant handle the extra load to their plate. One time recently I just decided I was going to go out for the night with a friend and have some mild openness reguardless of how they felt about it because I deserve to live my life a bit. Anyways this caused a huge rupture for us, I didnt even end up doing anything. We've moved through the rupture. We have such a sweet love, we have all our ways of being together that are so special and meaningful to me but I dont know how to deal with this anymore. I feel emotionally controlled and mildy manipulated in a weird way (am I overreacting?). It feels like so many mono tethers are inside our web and it makes me feel bitter inside towards them when I dont want to feel this way. Being more free, open in communication, self holding and accepting etc. foster more loving feelings for me and these restrictions feel like its ruining my "inlove" feelings. Any reflections, advice etc?