Hey i kinda need some help. Sorry if this is too long.
Context : 25M, never been in a serious relationship. Had a 6 month short term thing once before.
So i got on hinge and matched with a bunch of women which was surprising ( i used to be very overweight but lost around 130 lbs). Im 6ft4 so the weight loss definitely changed the entire dating scene for me.
I don't easily get attached to women, so I've had multiple flings that died out, either from my side or theirs, but whatever the case may be, it was nothing serious. Except this girl that I matched with, I got her Instagram from Hinge and we talked nonstop for around two weeks. We have pretty much the same background, so we really hit it off, and I felt like we had great conversations, some of them very personal. During the two weeks, I asked her twice that we see each other, but she wasn't in the same city as I am, and kept telling me that she would love to see me when she gets back. After two weeks of talking, one day we were just talking about a random subject and she read the message but didn't reply. A day later, still the same. Two days afterwards, nothing. So I double-texted saying that I still wanted to see her when she gets back. She didn't even open the message and just left me on delivered. Two weeks go by, crickets.
I looked at her hinge profile, and saw that she updated the pictures so at that exact moment i immediately moved on and deleted her instagram conversation but kept following her and she kept following me. One day, out of the blue she just texted me and said : I'm back, I want to see you tomorrow if you're available (it was a Tuesday)
I said ok but told her it will have to be on the weekend.
Between that Monday and that Friday, we basically didn't have much of a conversation because I just really wasn't interested in talking to her anymore. But a part of me wanted to go on a date. I still dont know why.
However Friday comes and I just changed my mind and texted her that i don't think we should see each other and explained to her that at first I was interested but then she was was never available and then she basically disappeared for two weeks.
She got upset and kept trying to convince me to change my mind, said that she s been busy and thought that we should save conversations for when we meet each other. Kept telling me how she would really like to see me and stuff.
So I slept on it and changed my mind the next morning. Went on our first date and it lasted six hours, we just walked and talked with some very deep eye contact all the time. At the end she told me that it would have been a shame if I had canceled because she had a really good time and she loved seeing me and stuff.
After the date she is the one that texted me first asking how I got home and if I got home well. And she said that she had a really great evening with me. We said that we would see each other the next weekend.
Then through the entire week, she just kept texting me very frequently, bringing up conversations trying to make me see that she is interested.
We went on the second date, and again, it lasted six hours, but it felt like 20 minutes. We've had great conversations, we've even kissed. And now we've made plans for next weekend.
She’s been texting me nonstop ever since.
The problem is, we really hit it off, we have the same common interests, she's very pretty, very smart, very educated, but I just don't know how I can trust this girl because in the back of my mind, she ghosted me for two weeks looking for someone else, updating her Hinge profile, I just can't help but feel like I'm a second option. And I don't know if I should keep seeing her or not because there’s this other girl that I'm getting to know, and she has like zero red flags, but we have less of a spark and fewer things in common. But she's also like super nice, but she just feels like the safest option and I'm just confused. Idk what to do knowing that i like them both but i have no strong feelings for either of them. Its only been two dates with both.