u/Connect_Wrongdoer_81

There is this very sweet guy. He is kind, smart, funny and the type of person you can actually have a conversation with. We've known each other for years, but never really talked. Recently he asked me out.

Here's the thing though. I really like him as a person, but I don't really feel attracted to him. But then again, I'm a very anxious and reserved person that needs a lot of time with people in general. I don't have much experience in relationships because of that. Every time a guy approaches me, I get really quiet and then I avoid them.

But this guy makes me feel comfortable. Is it because I've known him for a while? I don't know. What I do know is that I feel affection towards him and I feel like I never want anybody to hurt him because of how sweet he is. But I don't feel attracted to him...

Everybody tells me to give him a chance, go on a few dates and see how I feel after and that sometimes, feelings develop with time. Is that true? Would you give it a go with the hope that it would end up working out? But also, what if it doesn't? What if by going out with him, I give him the signal that I want this and I'm into him? I really don't want to hurt his feelings if it doesn't work out. And I honestly fear that nothing will change and I won't develop any feelings or interest in him.

Can someone please help me? I don't know what to do. I feel like something's really wrong with. Why can't I just have feelings for someone?

I'm 24 and I've never been scared riding horses. Falling off had always been just another day to me. I didn't mind it and I never thought of the risks of riding or cared.

But a few months ago, I had a bad fall and broke a few bones. And since then, I can't see riding the same way. Obviously I still love it and I want to keep riding for as long as I can, but it seems like suddenly, I want to be very careful. I've broken bones before and had concussions, but I always came back more dedicated. I'd still get in the saddle and ride the green horses. And now, I'm a little scared? I don't fully understand why, but I don't want to risk it anymore. I'm suddenly aware of the risks and want to take it easy.

I returned to riding a few days ago and I just no longer feel like riding the difficult horses. I want the easy and, most importantly, safe ones. It feels like I went from 20 years old to 60 in just a few months. I don't know if it was the fall and injuries or me getting older and finally realising the risks, but I feel so old all of a sudden.

Has that "switch" happened to you?