u/Connect_Weather6061

My husband (Indian) and I (South East Asian) are first time parents to a baby. At first we naively thought we have both sets of parents (grandparents to the baby) that could help us. Turns out we can only count on mine and his father has gone batshit crazy. He violated our boundaries by attempting for an unannounced visit for a very unreasonable reason. We had the toughest time of our lives. We fought so hard. I was suicidal with my postpartum depression and anxiety. Not only did he not understand, he kept doubling down when I I demanded an apology and an admission of wrongdoing in that tough period by continuously trashing us on social media insisting on respect for seniors playing victims that we blackmailed him, etc. he wrote an email demanding money payback for everything he ever paid for my husband including gifts we didn’t ask for or wanted. He told my husband that he only helped him out at the lowest point of his life because his friend pleaded with him to. I attempted for the last time to call him out on his BS, and the latest post he made was to call my postpartum depression “weak”, “excuses” and a “poor mindset”. He can die alone. My husband has forsaken him. My husband still feels moral obligation to maybe chip in in their helpless state with money but not with his presence. I never want my son to be around this narc and I don’t even wanna go to his funeral let alone help organise it. (His wife remains silent throughout as she has some sort of Stockholm syndrome that made her choose her husband over her family.)