since the breakup i had no contact with my ex for a year, but now she showed up and started liking my posts
We dated for more than a year and a half. I loved her deeply, but I never really felt the same level of love and effort from her side. Even though we didn’t live together, I handled basically every financial issue for us.
About six months before the breakup, I started feeling coldness from her. It was Christmas break, and I wanted to take her on a date, but she kept saying her parents wouldn’t let her go out. I waited until the new semester started. Even before the semester began, she kept saying the same thing — that her parents wouldn’t allow it.
Then, on the very first day of the new semester, I wanted to invite her to a romantic lunch/date, but she refused and instead went to meet her male friend from high school. At first, I was really angry — honestly, who wouldn’t be in that situation?
But I calmed down and even gave her my card so she could either pay for herself or for everyone, just so that he wouldn’t pay for her. After lunch, classes started, and she came in a little late. She even brought me food too. I asked her, “I didn’t get any payment notification — who paid for lunch?”
She said, “My friend paid,” and that was it.
After that, I didn’t talk to her for a couple of days.
That’s when everything really started changing. During our relationship, I considered it completely inappropriate for me to get close to other girls because I was already in a relationship. But after that moment, it felt like my love started fading. I began noticing other girls, talking to them, and over the next few months everything became obvious. We barely talked anymore, and we no longer looked like a couple.
Eventually, I told her:
“For the past few months, I honestly don’t understand what’s happening. I feel coldness from you. Think carefully — are we still going to stay together, or should we end this?”
A few days passed, and I hated myself for saying that. I blamed myself and prayed that we wouldn’t break up.
But what she said — or rather, texted, because we broke up over messages — made me hate her.
She said:
“I’m really sorry, but for the last 2–3 months I haven’t felt anything for you, and I don’t want to waste either your time or mine.”
What hurt even more was that during the same period when she supposedly “felt nothing,” she still accepted expensive gifts from me, let me pay for her courses, her hobbies, and everything else.
I asked her several times if there was anything we could do, or if we could start over somehow, but she refused.
Of course I was devastated at first, but after some time I realized that if she had been using me during those last months, then what kind of love was that anyway?
From that day on, I never sent her another message. I didn’t even reply to hers.
And now, a year after the breakup, she suddenly appeared again. She started liking all my posts, and she’ll probably message me soon.
What should I do?