WIBTAH for threatening leaving him during arguments?
My boyfriend and I have been going through a rough patch lately, and it seems like we’ve been arguing more than usual. Most of the fights aren’t over anything huge, but they just keep escalating until neither of us is really listening. When the argument really gets bad my go to move has been to say things like “maybe I should just leave” or “maybe we shouldn’t even be together.” I don’t actually mean it. I like him and want to stay, but it usually makes the argument pause for a bit, so it’s working at least!
In our last argument, though, he told me that it’s unfair for me to keep saying that. He said it makes him feel like the relationship is unstable, and that if I really wanted to leave, I should just do it instead of threatening it during fights. I honestly don’t get why he’s taking it so seriously, because I’m not planning to leave and it’s never been an actual threat. I just feel frustrated and like he’s overreacting, it normally shuts the argument down so I don’t know why it was different this time
Part of me feels like he’s overreacting but I also want to know why he is and why he thinks it’s so unfair, he says that I’m really the one causing the arguments, which I’m not, he contributes too. I don’t know what to do but I’m also not sure if I’m the problem or not and what to do if I am.