i 33, My fiance 36m have been together on and off since 2018 but on seriously since 2022. we both have a child outside of our relationship and have a child together.
our child only being 21 months old still will wake up in the middle of the night from time to time. however my fiance never wakes up for him due to him stating he can’t be tired while working. his job is serious and I’ve accepted that I would rather his safety more than anything.
however just the other morning no warning no communication or anything he jumps out of bed at 5am and out the door by 5:33am I checked the camera. later on a phone call I asked hi oh I didn’t know you were going to the gym this morning, he told me he took his child to the airport. Knowing the child wasn’t riding the plane alone I reiterated Oh you took them to the airport? Long story short, after knowing he had paid for the flights, paid for the hotel, paid for the sport event the child is competing in, he wanted to take them to the airport.
i later on told him I don’t want to hear an excuse ever again not waking up with our toddler If he can do airport runs before work. NOR has he ever done an airport run for me EVER, he’s always stated he’s never the airport guy, me on the other hand I’ve always done it for friends and family and I don’t mind it.
he gets completely offensive when I tell him this but I truly don’t care and it caused a huge argument. We’re not speaking and this isn’t the first time he lacks communication about what he does for his ex with his “only intentions being for their child” he overcompensates financially for his ex in every way. weve had way to many conversations about the same issues and I just don’t know what to do.
additional context is he had me give my child’s father outstanding amount of boundaries but he stands with he will never have boundaries with his ex.