Hi all, lurked this sub a few years back when I was having a lot of intercourse and penetration issues but put it down to me being a virgin and very anxious and never explored it further. My experience has probably been better than most - was able to unintentionally do my own sex therapy to the point where I can actually engage in PIV consistently (always need a copious amount of lube, can't do all positions, always need to take it so slow at the start - but still a success!).
Honestly forgot about it for a while until I went to my GP recently to try and get an IUD inserted and ended up having so many issues with the speculum to the point where we aborted the procedure. She brought up the possibility of vaginismus and referred me to a gynae and pelvic floor PT to look into it more.
Don't really have a specific point with this point, I just feel relieved knowing that my experience wasn't normal and there might actually be an element of pelvic floor dysfunction messing with things.
How did you guys manage with vaginismus, especially with maintaining your relationship with your partner? I heard it gets worse after childbirth and quite worried about that because I've just reached a point where it's okay and I don't know if I can deal with the pain and going through all of this again.