I’m a 23M with a minor eye condition. It doesn’t affect my vision and most people can’t even notice it unless I point it out. Growing up, my parents didn’t really focus on getting it treated, but now that we’ve started looking for marriage, they’re suddenly pushing for it
Personally, I don’t feel the need for surgery since it doesn’t cause me any functional problems. I don’t even wear glasses.
When it comes to a partner, I prefer someone with decent looks but also some personality—like having hobbies, interests, or some intellectual side.
So far, my experience has been mixed. The girls I liked rejected me because of my eye condition. One girl who was okay with it, I didn’t connect with at all—she didn’t seem to have any hobbies or personality, which mattered to me more than looks.
Initially, I handled rejection pretty well. It didn’t affect me much and I was fine being alone. I could spend hours by myself without feeling bothered.
But things changed when my family started constantly bringing up my rejections and discussing me to accept the proposal I don’t like. That constant discussion is what’s really getting to me now.
Earlier, I was okay with the idea of not getting married anytime soon. But now I can’t stop thinking about all this, and it’s affecting my focus and peace of mind. I’m even considering surgery just to end this whole situation and stop the pressure.
How do I stop overthinking this and get back to how I was before? I do not feel to discuss this with anyone I know, and I just pretend everything is fine.