I don’t think my husband really loves me. 29f 26m
When my husband and I first met he was 25 and I was 18. We didn’t get together until I was almost 22. We’re now 29 and 36 and he just has no affection anymore. At all. I try to cuddle and he acts like he’s got better things to do. Or he makes fun of me thinking I’m just horny or something. He buys me everything I want. But has no physical or emotional love to show. I honestly feel like I was the only girl around him for years. So he thought he loved me. But he just loved the idea of me. I don’t think he’s ever been Inlove with me. He asked me to marry him a year after getting together. So I feel like he did it in the “puppy love” stage of things. He’s only had one other girlfriend before me. Just a few things I deal with daily that makes me doubt some small. Some not. We live in a city, where there’s a lot of crime and it’s 2026. Not as safe for women as it used to be. And I get told I look 13 half the time. So there’s that🙄 but I have to lock the house up every night before bed. He don’t care. Makes me feel he don’t care for my safety. I’m also driving a long way to work everyday and have been in 4 car accidents within 3 years doing so. My car is completely falling apart and my wheel could fall off at any moment. Another no care for my safety. He never gets us food. That’s always on me. No matter what. He likes to sit on his ass and ask me to do everything for him. Kinda like a dad and a little kid. I’m the only one who cares about how we live in our home. He could care less what the home looks like or how well it functions. He don’t ever want to have sex. Like ever. And when he does it feels like it’s forced because he knows i want it. We’ve never talked about each others pasts. I know past don’t matter. But it kinda does to me. I want you to know andi want to know what we’ve experienced before to make us who we are. He don’t know any of my sexual wants or needs. As he’s never asked and when I bring it up, it’s like he’s making fun of me for being horny. I’ll go to bed completely naked and will lay there and not touch me. He used to not be able to go to sleep without touching me. That’s long gone. We’ve been together almost 10 years. But we have no kids. I don’t even think I can have them. So why not spend all that energy into each other? He never really wanted kids. From what he’s said to me. So that’s not an issue for him. I’m just so confused how to take this whole thing. I still feel like a 17 year old kid trapped in a 29 year old body. Like I can’t grow. Or maybe I’m making it up. I don’t know. We have really really good weeks and really sucky weeks. I know that’s in all relationships. But the best way to put it, is I feel like his friends with benefits or something. We just live together. The most romantic loving thing he does, is hold the doors open for me. Aside from the car door. I open that one myself. I’d do anything for this man. But I don’t feel like he’d do the same for me. And I don’t wanna hear the “why don’t you tell him” I do. And I have. It causes arguments. And that shit is gonna make me admit myself one day. Talk about making me feel crazy during every argument. Ugh. I can go on for days. I just need to know, is this normal in a marriage of 10 years? Or does it seem he’s falling out of love with me? Or already has?