u/Confident-Summer-404

Hi, so looking for advice on how to approach this because I feel very weird about it. I (M25) admittedly had looked through my Girlfriend’s (F24) phone last night and found something pretty disturbing to me. In a text thread to someone unrelated to the story my girlfriend had sent a voice message basically complaining about a good friend I have (F25) which normally would be like whatever, no big deal. Expect half of the stuff she was complaining about just isn’t true in the slightest. For example in the audio message my girlfriend says that my friend and I had met in 6th grade which is wrong we met both after we had graduated high school. However that’s pretty tame and could just be a simple mistake. However she also goes on to say that she doesn’t like her because of a nickname my friend supposedly calls me all the time (which she has never once called me). Also getting upset that apparently one night my friend has messaged me at 3 in the morning saying she couldn’t sleep and both myself and my girlfriend happened to be up. My girlfriend was apparently annoyed and wondering why she was texting me at that time but didn’t say anything to me in the moment. My girlfriend also states multiple times in her voice message that she’s not jealous and that it’s completely fine to have friends of the opposite gender while in a relationship but then goes on to say that she has no reason to worry because she’s hotter and more interesting than my friend (which is like true but seems unnecessary to say). Girlfriend also goes on to state that I’m just a man so she’s not going to become jealous over this. Girlfriend also says that my friend and I tell each other everything which is mostly true but is questioning whether or not I tell her about the more intimate parts of our relationship (I don’t) and that if I am that this needs to end. In another audio message my girlfriend says she’s worried to go visit my hometown (I live out of state from where I grew up) because she’s worried about meeting my friend and it being like this weird dynamic that happens sometimes w girlfriend’s and girl best friends. However my friend doesn’t even live in my home state anymore as well.. which moves into the next point and in my opinion the strangest. My girlfriend claims that I often message my friend asking to call to talk on the phone or that the next time I’m in my home state that my friend and I should get together for lunch. She goes on to say that I don’t has a grasp on the situation and understand that my friend apparently wants me (even though she’s in a very happily committed relationship) and she won’t be made into a jealous person however this behavior between my friend and I is kind of insane. Which granted if literally any of this was true then yeah it would be insane behavior. Truthfully however my friend and I are nothing more than pen pals really… we’ve never once spoken to each other on the phone or have ever tried to. We’ve also never even met in person even though we are from the same state my friend and I had met on social media. All of these things are just really really strange to me for multiple reasons. 1. It makes me look like a bad person I feel because I’m letting a friendship get in the way of our relationship (isn’t true) 2. My girlfriend is very clearly not okay with my friendship but has not once say anything to me about it. 3 probably the biggest issue is that she is just straight up lying to the person she sent the audio message to about the dynamics and interactions of my friendship. I’m just really confused on how to handle this situation. I know it was wrong to go through my girlfriend’s phone and truthfully that was the first time I had done it. I’m not even really sure why I felt compelled to but I’m seriously uncomfortable with the conversation I found. I took pictures of the transcripts that show up when an audio message is sent so I do have proof of everything my girlfriend had said and lied about. I’m just really unsure how to proceed but I’m very bothered by the lying and lack of communication to me about her feelings. So do I confront my girlfriend about this? Sorry if this story is all over the place and hard to understand again I’m just really bothered by this. Any advice would be appreciated.