ok so I (28F) have been married to my husband (30M) for two years. We bought our first house about 8 months ago. His mom helped with some of the closing costs, not a huge amount but enough that she likes to bring it up.
When we moved in we gave her a key. I was fine with it at the time. The idea was for emergencies, watering plants if we travel, that kind of thing. We live about 15 minutes from her.
The first weird thing happened maybe two months in. I came home from work early because I had a migraine and her car was in our driveway. I went inside and she was in our kitchen reorganizing my spice cabinet. She had pulled everything out onto the counter. She said she was "just dropping off a casserole" and figured she would help while she was here. I had not asked her to do this. I had not told her I was bad at organizing spices. I was too sick to argue so I said thanks and went to bed.
Since then I have found:
- a new shower curtain in our guest bathroom (she said the old one had "a smell")
- my throw pillows rearranged on the couch, multiple times
- a tupperware of soup in the fridge with no note
- our framed wedding photo moved from the hallway to the office because she thinks the hallway gets "too much sun"
- and last week, a load of my husbands laundry folded on our bed. she had gone through our hamper.
I told my husband I want the key back. He says I am making this into a bigger thing than it is and that she means well. He said "she is just trying to help, she has a lot of time on her hands now that she is retired."
I asked him how he would feel if MY mom let herself in and went through his underwear drawer. He said that was different because my mom "does not know how to fold properly." I do not even know what to say to that.
I am not crazy right? You do not just go into someones house when they are not there. The casserole thing I could have lived with. The laundry is what did it for me.
AIO?