u/Confident-Mobile8124

i’m a 16 y/o female who currently lives with my full time working mom and brother. Growing up, my mom loved to cook nutritional meals when she was remarried to her ex-husband (my ex-stepfather), but since, she has clearly gone down a bit of a depression. Being as young as 12 when this happened, it was clear that her focus on my and her nutrition was greatly impacted and we started to collectively eat a lot of fast food/ junk food. I honestly wasn’t complaining at the time, but looking back, this greatly affected my eating cycles and weight, which is something that has taken years to dig out of for me. I was lucky to have my sister around at the time to introduce me to the gym and fitness so i could have an outlet for movement and to build more healthy habits, she has since moved to college and i have independently continued with these habits thank god. and just to be clear when i say “habits” i don’t just mean eating on the cleaner side and staying physically active, i also mean just proper self care and keeping my spaces clean, which to be completely honest, my mom neglects 90% of the time. I absolutely am not judging. i know depression is and workload is a cruel disease but i also know that i do not have the power to will someone else into getting back on their feet(i have tried), especially when it’s a figure that’s supposed to be supportive of ME, and shaming is not a good tactic. HOWEVER, the point i have to get to here is about my 10 y/o brother. he is currently not in sports, not doing well in school, not getting enough sleep, not getting proper nutrition, and from what i can see, not showering daily( and not in a cute way). He is absolutely addicted to any form of content he can consume, as well as video games. He fortunately has my aunt lisa who has stepped in big time and previously and gotten him into sports and summer camps but he seems to have lost complete interest. he is literally stuck in a cycle every day where he comes home from school and binge eats on the couch while watching tv from usually the hours of 3:00-9:00 even stretching later into the night some days. he is SO YOUNG to already be falling into these destructive habits that i know first hand are picked up from my mom. but she always shoes me away or gets mad and offended when i point out that she is enabling this destructive behavior. and i won’t even mention the personality changes that have happened. not to mention again with the weight thing but she constantly says stuff about “go get that boy to gain some weight” and “put some meat on those bones” as an excuse to make his sole nutrition absolute ultra processed garbage and fast food. he’s also not a super skinny kid he’s totally average- he doesn’t need to be force feed slop. i know i sound so melodramatic right now but my heart is just breaking down watching this because i know it’s simply so much harder to unlearn than my mom understands. should i try to intervene or just keep out of it? my maternal side is just so irked by this whole situation.