ive used gemini ai to put everything together properly because im too disturbed rn to articulate everything.
I am 17 and I live in calcutta with my parents and my 13-year-old sister. I’m posting this because I am terrified for our safety and don’t know what to do anymore.
My father has been chronically cheating on my mom since 2019. He doesn’t hide it. He video calls his girlfriend in front of me and my sister. When he gets caught, he turns violent. He has verbally and physically abused my mother for years. He has beaten her and even choked her in front of me.
My mom has no income of her own. She has stayed with him all these years "for the sake of the kids." Her plan was to bear the abuse until I left for the UK to study this year, so she could finally leave him once I was "safe" and settled.
TODAY
Today, his girlfriend texted my mom. My father found out and has been spiraling since this morning. He threw her SIM card and has been verbally abusing her for hours. I am terrified that when he comes home, he will get physical again.
He is now using my education as a weapon. He is threatening to ruin everything and refuse to send me abroad to study to keep my mom submissive. My mom is breaking down, saying she will accept any abuse just to get me out of here.
I can’t stand seeing her like this. My sister has been witnessing this trauma since she was a baby. Our family knows everything but none of them will take a serious step.
I feel so guilty that my mom is suffering for my "dream." Any advice from people who have dealt with domestic violence or the Indian legal system would be life-saving.
I need advice on:
- Safety (besides the 112/100 emergency numbers).
- Financial/Legal
- Education: Are there ways to protect my education? i have already committed to a university abroad, my passport is under review and we were about to start the visa process. What if he tries to pull the money last minute as a control tactic?