MIL attacks me “indirectly” and DH doesn’t see it
So tired of venting to DH and he’s all protective of MIL or FIL.
Before and during my pregnancy they were super loving and really respectful I would say. They really helped me out during a hard time in my life. But ever since LO was born they were just so dramatic. L
Didn’t respect my wish of postponing visits and called DH crying that she isn’t sleeping at all and having panic attacks because she couldn’t see him (he had been born for 2 weeks only). She also said that MY family had already visited and they hadn’t (which wasn’t true and if it was it’s not her business). My anxiety spiked so much that I let them visit the week after but I’ve become resentful ever since.
Then comes the kissing. We (mostly me) had a no kiss policy on the hands and face. This was also very dramatic for my in laws as they said LO wouldn’t feel the love they have for them and couldn’t develop a close relationship (lol!). I even had a small confrontation with MIL about this because I was so tired of small attacks every single time we went there for lunch, once a week. And you guessed it, she cried a lot and hugged DH like a child. I just rolled my eyes and left. DH always defended me in front of them but I know that he left small remarks that if it was up to him they would be able to kiss the baby. When we were alone DH would be very upset with me and we would argue because we couldn’t understand the no kissing, despite me being clear of my concerns and why.
LO is now 7 months and we keep the weekly visits. For them it’s not enough, as they say the baby doesn’t remember them and will not love them if he sees them this often, but I would have a nervous breakdown if I went there more often. During our visits I keep my composure and we can have fun and talk normally but there’s always this slight energy that’s off and I feel attacked.
Last week I mentioned my wish to BF until he’s at least 2 years (after being directly asked if I still BF). Today FIL told LO to stop BF that he’s addicted and it’s time to stop, I ignored him. Afterwards, I was nursing him on the couch with DH next to me and MIL approached us, directed at DH saying “this is like candy, isn’t it?” (Like, he doesn’t need it). I answered and said that his milk is still the main source of feed. DH backed me up and she was like “ahhh…” and looked at me with disgust and said that he should stop BF. Wtf!!! She also wanted to give him a lot of water because she said he’s thirsty, after seeing some random news about a baby dying from thirst of whatever. They’re so dumb .
I didn’t vent with DH as we are honestly by a thread and the thread even feels invisible by now. I’m probably going to become a single mom and it’s ridiculous but I feel super anxious about that because of them too, I know I won’t be respected.