So, my daughter 13, 7th grade, has been in the same-ish friend group since last year.
Backround on my daughter: A little She has baggage, we've been her permanent guardians for the passed 11 years, she still has a little bit of contact with birth mom. She met her younger 1/2 sister last year and continue to make plans w/her & her fam and her older 1/2 sister when she was 10 and never again (They all have diff fams, BM didn't raise any of them)
She's been in therapy since she was 2 1/2. She used to pull her hair out when she was a toddler, but hasn't done it in years.
Her "friend" group has been rage baiting her a lot.... she has big emotions, I'm not sure what she acts like in person when these sessions are going on, but I think she has done awesome from what she tells me.
Last week part of the friend group when to a movie, there's a group chat, they didn't talk about it there until after it was over. She said it would have been nice to be invited and they all ganged up on her and said she was being so dramatic and that it was just a last minute thing.
A boy on the group chat said he cried to his parents bc he was so upset that they didn't tell him, and the response on the chat was that his feelings are valid. 🙄
This is just one recent example. I'm trying to let her navigate this and figure it out, she talked about it in therapy on Monday and on Tuesday did something I don't think she had done before. She almost lied about it and I told her to stop and she told me the truth. Not like trying to 🎲, just ✂️
Obviously she didn't get "in trouble" from me. She kept saying she was sorry and I told her there is nothing she needs to apologize for, and that I am sorry she felt so bad she felt the need to hurt herself.
We have already gone to the pediatrician, I updated her on what's going on, she gave us some referrals and some suggestions and I filled the Therapist in on the situation as well.
Should I talk to the kids parents? Like in a zoom so we could 100% all be there?
I have already tried explaining what actual friendship looks like, she has been sitting with another group this week, but she gravitates toward this group a lot and I don't think I can force her to stop. 😞 and I don't want to force her to do anything, I just want her to realize her worth.
Maybe I blinded to her faults, but I think I would've loved being her friend when I was her age....
What do you think folks?
Edit: I'm not doing the zoooom! I was in fight or flight bc so many little things had happened in a very short time and it kinda boiled over with the ✂️ incident (1st one that I know of) but still would love to hear advice!