u/ConceptMaximum7596

This is a question more for women than men. Do you feel like Jesus understands you?

I came across this comment online: "Jesus was a man who understood women, He was adored by many whom He had deep compassion for. If you haven't yet read the story of the woman at the well who He knew had been with many men, it is a depiction of His tenderness towards women, John 4:1-42. God gives His daughters a new identity when they repent, one that renews and in time washes away all the filth from past sexual sin."

Reading the gospel makes me think he seemed to not fully understand women, but maybe I'm wrong.

As an ex-Christian, have you been successful in making friends IRL? If so, how did you go about doing it?

In my last post, in this subreddit, I was talking about some trouble I was having with someone in a Facebook group. Some people rightly pointed out it was a waste of time and I should delete Facebook. I agree with them, but Facebook has replaced my church community and former friends.

When I started questioning Christianity, my IRL Christian friends quietly ghosted me. The problem was they were my only friends. As a Christian I had this genuine belief that non-Christians were possessed by demons, and it would be dangerous for me to be friends with them. So when I lost my Christian friends, I had no one.

I turned to Facebook groups in hopes I could find a new community. There was this one group I joined that was for people questioning Christianity. I thought I had found my people. For about a year or so the group was great. We were all asking questions and supporting one another, but then the pandemic happened. Then came the fights, which led to people blocking other members and people storming out of the group. It was disheartening to see and made me become cynical about people. Nowadays social media seems to be full of people trolling and attacking one another.

I've come to the conclusion that having friends IRL is the solution, but I struggle to make friends. I'm an ambivert, so I enjoy moments of solitude but not too much. I've been isolated for far too long, and it's having a negative effect on my mental health. Despite no longer being a Christian anymore, I think, to a degree, my old beliefs still affect me. I no longer believe non-Christians are possessed by demons, but how can you know if someone is a good person to be friends with? It's not as if every non-Christian is a good person.