u/ConcentrateHairy5423

Emotionally unavailable just trigger me

I swear! I really have been working on myself these past few years to take things slow and not go all in, but emotionally unavailable people just tugs at my abandonment and lonely wound. The way that I grew up avoiding my feelings and being parentified by my mom, my caregiver instincts also become triggered… by wanting and giving more without return. No matter how busy I am, I still want to be at least considered or talked to and ofc not everyone can but it’s usually those who are unavailable that can’t communicate about it.

I don’t know if this feeling is universal, but damn! People who don’t have the capacity or consistency to keep a conversation/ bond building just annoy me. I’m trying to just walk away and not fight for it, but I get attached so quick that the pacing is hard. I don’t know..

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u/ConcentrateHairy5423 — 4 days ago

30F, wanting to dance more and learn bachata. Wondering if there’s a group who goes? I usually go at the Charles River when it’s nicer, but seems like it’s still winter these days .-.

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u/ConcentrateHairy5423 — 10 days ago

Similar to my past posts, I have this urge to text back despite being ignored and not have my feelings be pushed away. I’m finding it hard with guilt if I should apologize for putting my needs and still wanting them in my life, but ofc I still gave a lot of effort before I got frustrated… I just wished he didn’t give me away.. I tried to compromise for him because of history but all he does is watch my stories…. I just ugh, i deserve better I know but I didn’t treat him bad.. I keep thinking if I text again and apologize he would talk to me.. I don’t know

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u/ConcentrateHairy5423 — 11 days ago

I’m just in the slumps right now and after all the overextending I did and support, I still was not chosen and my nervous system is triggered. I just I’m trying to not give into my control of cursing him out or asking him why he’s ignoring me and not choosing me. I understand his capacity and his plate is full, but he flirted with me, he was engaged with me on conversation, but I of course feel like I pushed him away because of my anxiety. I’m having a hard time, can someone help Meg

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u/ConcentrateHairy5423 — 18 days ago