AITAH for refusing marriage without prenup?
TL;DR- I am currently receiving a large sum of money. I haven’t told my gf about the exact amount yet, but she currently knows I have quite a bit. I refuse to get married without a prenup and she is upset. AITAH?
I (26M) have been with my gf(25F) on and off for about a year and some change. Marriage is on the table soon as we have discussed. I have been in the steady process of recovering a large sum of money. Let's just say it's more than enough for me to know I will be getting a prenup and there will be no discussion that's changes my mind otherwise. Only thing that I will discuss is making sure the prenup is fair for both parties.
I did go ahead and tell her about the money (not exact amount yet) as I would have to be honesty about my finances before marriage and the signing of the prenup. I did not want to string this on her after getting engaged to her.
Of course she is not on board and doesn't want to sign one because she said it should be about love. She shouldn't have to be signing documents about it. I told her we are already signing a document to the state with marriage in general, and that there is nothing wrong with signing a document that protects the both of us. I did tell her that the decision of the prenup itself is not a negotiation, and there will have to be one or we won't be getting married, but I will pay for her lawyer to ensure it is as fair as possible.
The plan is keeping everything we came in with separate.
The money will garner returns durring the marriage and I have told her the interest, gains, etc (yes it's that much to where I will be having livable gains from it from years to come without touching principal) will be something i consider to be marriage property and will split with her during and if the marriage ends. Also assets would be the same way during the marriage. Also | legally cannot waive child support so she'd get that as well (this was brought up by her). This was apparently not enough but I find this more than fair.
I don't know what else to say to her other than we are not getting married because I will not force her to sign it but not signing does mean there will not be a marriage. I guess I need y'all's help to figure out the best way to explain things to her and what I can do going forwards. She still wants to proceed with marriage.