I love my braids, but I can’t help but feel like my scalp looks awkward and almost “naked”? Maybe because it’s the very first day, and my hair needs to grow in, but I can’t help but feel insecure about the flatness / lack of volume.
Maybe I’m overthinking. My braider did a great job.
I (24F) have been talking to a guy (25M) I met on Marvel Rivals almost every day for the past 3 months. I wasn’t expecting to feel so attached to him.
We met right after I broke up with my ex of 3 years. Originally, I just wanted a duo partner to climb ranked with. I needed a distraction from the break up pain. So I found him, and the first time we called, we clicked instantly. He’s really sweet, fun, engaging, and our conversations flow so naturally. His voice is insanely attractive to me, deep and calming, very “boyfriend ASMR” type 😭. We also share the same personality type (INFP), and he’s emotionally intelligent, self-aware, and empathetic.
Ever since we met, we couldn’t stay away from each other. I was cautious at first and didn’t want anything romantic just after getting out of a relationship. I just wanted to stay as close friends and see where things went. But that quickly turned into us calling every single day, even sleeping on call. We watched movies, played games, etc. Then things got more flirty & intimate… and after a week we were already having talking about our kinks which eventually lead to us having phone sex regularly.
We’re very sexually compatible, which definitely makes me crave him more. But what matters more to me is the emotional connection, and it’s so strong. We are very much in sync. Talking to him every day, waking up to his voice, and getting to know him has made me realize I’ve become pretty romantically attached.
Here’s the messy part. He’s leaving for military boot camp in a few months. We’ve talked about what we are, and the feelings are mutual. I told him I’m not ready to make things official yet because I want more time to build trust, and he told me he feels the same. Since we don’t know what will happen once he leaves, we’re just enjoying our time together without putting pressure on the future or having labels.
Recently I impulsively bought a cheap plane ticket to visit his city (a 2 hour flight). Part of it is just wanting a vacation and seeing other friends there, but obviously I also really want to see him. I’ll be staying in my own Airbnb for a week and we have plans to hang out irl.
So now I’m second guessing myself. We’ve video called so I know he’s real, but I’ve still only known him for 3 months online. Although I feel like we’re more than friends with benefits atp. He honestly feels like a boyfriend to me even though he ‘officially’ isn’t.
I’m open to becoming official eventually but I’m scared of overcommitting too fast. Especially knowing he will be in the military…
So I guess my questions are:
- Am I being impulsive or naive for flying out to see him?
- Is it weird or selfish to do this when we’re not officially dating?
- Would having sex in this situation be too much?
Sorry I know this probably sounds messy asf… lol