Quick summary: This guy I think is cute is sending mixed signals (stare at me, help me with/without me knowing, etc.) I would like a concrete answer to how he feels
Longer (better) summary please read this lol:
OK, so I’m gonna try to conceptualize this as best as possible and follow the timeline.
I got a job and a guy who I immediately thought was cute displayed interest in me. He would help me lift things that were heavy. He would be awkward when he would talk to me, he would preemptively say hi to me, and he was stare—but more on that later
Then I was going on vacation and I told him that.
He was all like what am I gonna do without you?
So that gave me some confidence to finally go up to him. So I went up to him and I was like how was your break? and he was basically like oh great I just spent it with my girlfriend.
So I was done with the whole situation after that really because I’m no home wrecker.
He however, continues to show interest in me.
\- He would constantly stare. The most objective way I can describe it is his eyes are somewhat wide, and his gaze is fixed. He does not talk. And it’s seems like he also doesn’t blink lol
\- would interrupt me speaking with men and talk to them beside me
\- would hang around me but never too close. Especially if I’m talking to my girls.
\- Would again stare at me when I’m not talking to him but around him
\- Somehow always listening to my convos to offer some advice despite not talking to him. Especially when it’s something that upsets me
\- he looked sad sometimes when I wouldn’t talk to him
But he also
\- has a gf lol
\- told me point blank I don’t date ppl from work
\- asked him to do a favour once and he said it was too far (Mind you I was asking him to grab something from his cubby at work)
\- watched me grab something real heavy and waited for me to ask him for help
\- acts very nonchalant when I speak to him/acts like why am I speaking to him
\- won’t come up to me literally just STARE
\- was told his preference was Caucasian women—I’m not AND NEITHER IS HE??
Then him and his gf broke up.
I guess after that our conversations got more friendly.
\- told him I needed to fart he said I can do it whenever I want around him
\- basically called me beautiful? (Maybe idk we were talking abt a potential makeup brand and he said that as the name)
\- got really passive aggressive with someone with a guy who was hugging me. Mind u he’s gay
\- Became helpful. He noticed that I was struggling with something at work and he disobeyed our supervisor by not going for break and helping me out. Even suggested doing a less esteemed form of work just to help me
\- And again stare. But it feels like he’s staring into my soul. I can feel he’s stares track me around work.
It honestly makes me a bit uncomfortable lol cuz it’s just happens so much
\- he also told me abt someone hitting on him which I later found out he embellished some details
Then he got a gf and GUESS where he found her WORK
So idk he closed the door for anything happening with us because I don’t date ppl from work and now that he’s gone ahead and dated someone else who I know that’s too complicated for me.
However how latest interactions have been also confusing
\- He and the other coworker are not supposed to date but both come up to me together at work(lowkey feel like territory marking right there). I talk to her and he again stares me down the entire time says nothing and leaves when she leaves
\- He has been ease dropping on my conversations again
\- I’ve notice that he watches me especially as lately I have been talking to more men there the more comfortable I’m getting
\- and the latest thing is him helping me without me knowing. He helped boost my stats and then pretended not to know he was doing it when I asked.
\- We also can never have a normal conversation IT IS LITERALLY ALWAYS AWKARD
So Yh a little abt me too:
Never had a bf—almost 21
Been told I have an rbf (however a lot of ppl says that goes away once they know me)
I’ve made it known my intentions with him prior to knowing/in between gfs: liking posts etc.
Ive also let it known when I’m trying to JUST be friends with him. Purposely avoiding his gaze and not talking to him. He looked sad tho
Final thoughts:
I am not delusional I know if he wanted to he would.
It’s the not knowing where we stand that gets me.
I’m okay with being friends/nothing but just enough with the mixed signals
So yeah help plz. Also if u want to give general dating advice too that would b helpful. That’s an area where I have been avoidant.
Thank you for reading!