u/Comprehensive_Gur_32

You were my first love, my forever love. I had the ring in hand ready to get down on one knee. You were the rock that kept me grounded and the wings that brought me higher. I loved you deeper than I thought I could. You saved me during a time I was spiraling and made me into the man I am today. Thank you for loving me so deeply when I never thought I deserved it. I wanted us to take one everything the world has to offer us. Hand in hand walking into this new stage in life. I don’t know what happened along the way, but I lost sight of you and you’ve left me to pick the pieces of my shattered world. You left me to find yourself leaving me questioning everything about myself. No matter the issue I thought our love would have survived anything. I always believed we could find ourselves together through the ups and downs life throws at us. You’ve hurt me so deeply that I feel I will never be ready for love again. Wherever you are now, I hope you find the answers you’re searching for. Thank you for showing me a love so deep, that this heartbreak hurts so much. Maybe our paths will cross again in another life.

Ex used to regularly use MDMA at concerts 2019-2024, then tapered off. In 2025 she tried again and stopped due to no longer getting the “good effects” and only getting vertigo for days. Tried multiple times then gave up.

With the link between SSRI and serotonin is there a possibility of adverse effects from taking Lexapro given her reaction to MDMA?

A 7 year happy relationship ended after antidepressants.

My ex suffered from anxiety and depression throughout the relationship. I was always there to help her through it. I suffer from anxiety and depression with a history of suicide attempts. Thankfully due to my fear of meds, I went through talk therapy and it worked for me. My ex was always against therapy because she was afraid to talk to new people. So I became her therapist.

As life has gotten busier, I couldn’t always be there to help her through it. So she finally decided to seek professional help. She saw a psychiatrist and a therapist who prescribed lexapro. Not understanding the side effects of meds, I was happy she was finally seeking help on her terms.

Over the course of 2-3 months, she changed. She was more irritable, refused any physical touch, and emotionally cold for me. The constant rejection or anger got to me. Sent me into an episode of depression. The person who I just put a deposit down on a ring was treating me this way sent me in a spiral. I was drowning myself, so I couldn’t help keep her afloat too. She snapped at me saying she wanted to be alone. So I told her I needed some time alone too. During this time apart she decided to go to a party, get drunk, and sleep with someone. The news absolutely destroyed me. Her reasoning was when we took a break, it was like a light switch. She stopped caring. Now we’ve broken up because the meds help her find her true self.

She went from a cheerful, goofy, lovable person. To someone so cold and disconnected. After the meds she is not the same person anymore. Watching how the medication destroyed the person she once was. Looking at the person I would have given the world disappear. Hugging her for the last time was like a stranger to me again.

While I’m not perfect, I have always wanted the best for her. Pushed her to seek out who she wants to be. Always supportive. I failed her not being there during her time of need. Like anyone I could’ve done more, but I never expected this. I hope one day she’ll be free from this again.

7 year relationship down the drain. She’s suffered from anxiety and depression throughout the relationship. I’ve always encouraged her to seek help through therapy. I’ve also supported her during her lows. I also suffer from anxiety and depression with a history of attempted suicides. I chose not to go the medication route due to fear of drugs at the time. After years of therapy, I was able to work through my emotions and given the tools to handle them. Coming from experience I knew she had to seek help, but it would only be effective when she’s ready. She finally decided to get help, which I’m proud of her. She didn’t want to start with therapy because she is fearful talking about her emotions. So was prescribed a SSRI drug. Over the 2 months she pulled back, irritable, lack of libido. Her entire personality changed. Which pushed me back to depression and prioritize myself to keep myself afloat. I asked for a break for me to deal with my emotions, so I’m in the best place to help her. During the break she went to a party and got severely drunk. She slept with someone. We broke up due to this. Wanted to work through this with her, there was zero empathy for what happened. Asking her reasoning, she just said her head is so messed up right now. I’ve suggested she should inform her doctors about this. This really isn’t normal behavior for her. Yes she would have spiraled before, but is the complete opposite any better? She was such a caring loving person before these drugs. I don’t recognize this person at all. It helped dull her emotions, but it also affected everything else. Benefit she’s excited for future, but at what cost? She’s lost her personality and her character. Everyone around her feels she’s changed. I see the need for medication in an emergency, but it shouldn’t be your first choice.

My my 7 year relationship with my girlfriend has ended. She’s suffered from anxiety and depression, but throughout the relationship didn’t want to seek treatment. I always encouraged her to take the time to find herself, supported her growth to make friends, and seek new things. Shes struggled to find a purpose for her life. In my past I have dealt with similar and had multiple attempted suicides. Due to fear of drugs at the time I found help through therapy, which helped immensely. She has always said she doesn’t want to do therapy. So she tried to go the medication route with weekly therapy.
Since starting on lexapro 2 months ago, she’s been more irritable, she never wanted me to touch her, and completely distanced. She’s been more independent now, which I’ve always encouraged to be. She just kept saying she wanted to be alone and I gave her the space she needed. I have been overwhelmed with the anxiety of proposing and providing for our next phase in life. At the time I felt like I was drowning and I just couldn’t help her in that moment. We ended up taking a break, which let me take a couple days to reevaluate and refocus to help her again. The break was like some kind of switch for her.
While on break she went out and drank heavily and slept with someone twice. When confronted she just kept saying her head is so messed up right now. She has no idea why or how she’s feeling about everything. She just wanted to try something different, which broke me. In the heat of the moment we ended things. A couple days after, I reached out after calming down to try and reconcile. Recognizing that this isn’t something the person I knew would do. I valued our relationship and I wanted to work through it with her. I also owned to my own mistakes because I can’t solely blame her as it takes two people in a relationship. I wanted to work together to find out our new selves together. When speaking with her she was emotional less. It wasn’t like the person I knew. It hurt giving hug goodbye and not feeling the person I loved. I’m happy she’s now less anxious and seemed more sure of herself. But is the cost even worth it? I get needing time to normalize on the drug. While her immediate answer was no, I encouraged her take the time to think and work with her doctors. I told her I would be open to trying again whenever she finds her new self on the medication. I still want to support her and I love her so deeply, but I can’t wait forever in this hurt. Gonna focus on myself now.

Is this the medication or her finding herself? If it’s her finding herself, I’m happy for her.