Basically I have been on BC since i was 14. I started it to help with my periods because they were extremely heavy (bleeding through and ultra tampon and a pad in less than an hour) and they lasted anywhere from 2-4 months. I already have quite low iron so was causing many issues. I have tried three different ones being on my third right now. The first one worked for around a year and than i began starting my period in the middle of the bc pack and would continue on period all be it significantly lighter than usual for 1-2 months, switched to a new one, nothing changed periods got heavier and period went to 2-3 months long (mind you this whole time im getting maybe a weeks break inbetween). Now this current one im on has worked for around a year and recently I have started spotting for 1-2 weeks starting around the second week of my bc pack. My periods before were quite painful, heavy, and long. They are still painful like i have to pull over driving sometimes because of how badly they hurt, and it hurts everywhere, down my legs, up my back, entire pelvic area. Its debilitating at its worst, however quite better with birth control managing from debilitating pain making me nauseas and unable to walk/do proper activites, to what i would say is slightly above my normal pain levels. I have asked my mom last bc pack, when the spotting first started to take me to the doctors again, to which me and her decided we would wait and see if maybe i did accidentally miss a pill and just didnt realize, or maybe it was just a fluke. I asked her again when it began with this pack to which I was told this is just apart of being a girl. I am wondering if I am being dramatic like she tells me or if this is something truly worrying as i feel. I posted in other forums about this, to which i was told i have similar symptoms to the commenters with endo. I have looked into endo before, as alot of symptoms do align, I have severe nausea frequently, painful periods, I also have problems with pain with insertion, such as sometimes it hurts to use tampons that one if resolvable fairly quickly, or i have quite a painful experience during sex. Not sure if those would even be correlated. I am wondering both if these things sound like something worth talking to a doctor about once i turn 18 and can make my own appt with a gyno since my mom wont, and mentioning endo for a possible ultrasound? Or if these symptoms really are what my mom says as just being a girl and i just got unlucky?
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Basically, i started talking to this guy say justin(not his real name) (17M) about 3 months ago, its going really well, we talk about doing things together. Were both going to the same college in august, and both moving down there obvs. I really really like him and we hangout once a week when neither of us have work (however he told me today hes been getting his shifts covered those days to hangout with me) which i feel bad about already. However my ex that i dated about a year ago we broke up last march, has caused me many trust issues, and just problems in all relationships romantic or platonic. Me and him do not talk but he was a very abusive boyfriend both mentally and physically, which has caused me many issues with trusting. He cheated on me our entire relationship with both girls and guys, and im finding it very hard to trust Justin. I find myself constantly wondering what hes doing and what girls hes talking to even though he has shown me everything without me even having to ask. I mentioned one day i was worried he was talking to other girls and he offered to give me logins to all his stuff( i did not accept that it felt controlling and weird). I have absolutely no reason to believe he is doing that, we have talked and have both agreed we are only talking to each other. I however still cannot stop wondering about the what ifs. What if when we start dating he treats me how my ex did, what if he cheats on me, what if hes talking to other girls, what if he only wants to be with me so ill have sex with him? Theres so many what ifs and they seem to be all i can think about. My friends dont understand when i tell them because they just keep saying hes proven he wont, he wouldnt do that. He is also my best friends boyfriends best friend. which should only add another layer of protection for me but it doesnt. It instead just makes me wonder what theyre keeping from me and her and so many other things. I feel so insecure because of everything i get jealous about or am worried about and im not sure how to ease it or fix my thinking. He is so wonderful and i really want this to work I do not want my own problems and my insecurities to be the reason things dont work. I never want to come across as controlling so i instead just sit there in my own thoughts being upset because i cant and wont say what im really thinking because it makes me feel like a bad, insecure, controlling, and jealous person even though that not how i am thats just how my thoughts are making me think and feel.
Basically im 17 and my mom has never been the type to take me to the doctors she normally just tells me im over reacting and that everything is normal. I have been on 3 different birth controls starting at 14 because my peirod were very heavy and would go on for months at a time. The first birth control worked..until it didnt and than i started starting my period in the middle of the pack (when i wasnt taking the placebos) she eventually took me back to the doctors, they switched me to a different bc which i was told was higher in hormones. That one didnt work, i continued to be on my period for 3-4 months at a time which about a weeks break inbetween. This is incredibly troubling as im already severely anemic. So i then switched again to my current birth control which at this point i started around a year ago. It is starting to do the same thing the first birth control did which im spotting in the middle of the pack, or ill be on my period for three days, itll stop for 3-4 and than ill spot until i take the placebos and start my period again. The first birth control worked for around a year, got me to 15, second one i kept on it for a year hoping it would work and my body just had to get used to it. switched everntually a little after i turned 16, and now this is happening again. Its like every time i hit around a year it just stops working and its incredibly frustrating. I have broughten this up to my mom and she just keeps telling me this is apart of being a woman. I understand its difficult dealing with period stuff but i do not think it is normal nor supposed to be happening me starting my period in the middle of my bc pack. Im unsure of what to do and unsure if maybe it is something im doing wrong, or if this really is just something im gonna have to deal with for the rest of my life.