Fixing to hit 5 months on the 12th. Thought nothing could be added on to the stress of becoming a widow before 30. Now legal stuff is happening.
Short background: when my wife was still functional we decided just for ease and protection for her to make a will. She didn’t have crazy things. Just a house and a car. We never thought and “end” would come but we were all just crossing our T’s. When we got to the part about executor we were both kinda lost. For reference I (F) am 28 and my wife was 29. Due to our lack of knowledge and age I thought why not just make her mom the executor. Her mom was her best friend.
Fast forward to now. She took my wife’s phone from me. She hasn’t communicated with me. She drained the bank account. The bank account was my wife’s. She had her own separate account number and so did her mom. The money was labeled which portion it belonged to but it all fumbled together if that makes sense. I do have the car and the title. Almost 5 months later with no notification she got an attorney and is in the process of probating the will. So she did all of those things before even being appointed executor by a judge. I have not been contacted at all. The only way I found out was our notary received a letter from my MIL attorney just asking for verification that the decedent was of sound mind etc.
How I know the will was probated? I got lucky. My mom’s smart and decided to look on the court case page and found it was submitted 2 weeks ago.
Things I noticed :
1-I am listed as spouse. But so is my MIL? I don’t know how that makes sense.
2-MIL is listed as executor and successor?
3-MIL apparently put my wife’s address instead of my normal mailing address down so I have no access if I do receive any mail from the attorney or court.
A few other things but I’ve already added so many words. I just don’t know what to do. She has my number. But I’ve had zero notification on anything. To clarify the reason why me and my wife have different homes is because she bought a house and her parents lived with her. I still stay with my mom. 7 years together and the beginning of the relationship was disapproval from her parents for acting in a homosexual relationship. Then 3 years into the relationship my wife starts getting sick. Then each year after there was a new diagnosis added on and it was just impossible to purchase our ow home together when her health was more of the priority. But I was her caretaker. We would split weeks where she would stay with me or I’d stay with her.
I’m just completely lost at what I do now. I can’t even believe any of this is real. I would burn the world down to bring her back. Cut my arms and legs off. Yet now I’m without my best friend AND her mom is being as shady as possible with me. Like I never existed.
I know nobody can give me proper legal advice I am just looking for a “ what if you were in my shoes “ suggestion or opinion.